A graphic to illustrate my pole journey this year. I am so thankful for how far I have come.
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This post is written in response to the Pole Dancing Bloggers Association’s blog hop prompt for July 2014. Click here to enter your post and view the other responses to the prompt.
Here’s the third installment of some bollywood songs you could pole dance to. I have to admit I am finding more and more of these now that I am opening my mind to what songs I could dance to. Thanks to Sheena Lashay for her post on exploring emotionality. I thought it might be a fun exercise to take her worksheet for various emotions and come up with songs that remind me of each emotion on there (plus I added some emotions of my choice at the very end).
You guys, the world does not approve of bigger pole dancers. If it did, wouldn’t there be more clothes available for us? It is SO hard to find stuff that fits, looks good AND works well for pole dance. It’s like that cheap-fast-good conundrum where you can’t get all three.
That being said, here are my recent finds + reviews for bottoms.
The great reveal aka confessions of a not so fit pole dancer. This is hard, I feel like I have a lot I try and hide. So, without further ado, here we go.
Yes, I did say Bollywood songs are hard to pole dance to. And now I am on a quest to find as many as possible and share them with you guys. Here’s another playlist for you folks. Enjoy!
This is not a post I wanted to make. This is not a post I thought I would need to make. But I do want to get my thoughts out on this subject while we are all still thinking about it.
This is in response to the many blogs written for this month’s PDB blog hop. The topic of discussion is Men and pole dance. People have written about various aspects of this very wide and controversial topic. Some women talk about how they need their ‘safe space’ to argue FOR women only pole classes. Some others take offense to the word ‘safe’. Are women implying having a male presence automatically makes some place unsafe? Here’s my point of view on the topic.
I am fairly new to pole dancing. If there’s one thing I have learned so far, it’s that pole dancing is NOT easy. It’s very, very hard to do those moves and look good. Or hell, look natural. So why would I take a thing already hard to do and add 7inch heels to it?
You guys, finding Bollywood songs you can pole to is NOT easy. Bollywood beats lend themselves more to Bhangra and less to pole dancing. BUT, where this is a will….
Here are my current favorites
I don’t care how much you weigh. I don’t care what you look like. If you think you’re ‘too fat’ for something, this post is for you.
I thought I was too fat to run, I ran a 5k within 2 months of starting.
I thought I was too fat to pole dance, I am now doing two classes a week + poling at home.
I definitely thought I was too fat to climb a pole. I never knew what I lacked was technique.
I thought I was too fat to wear heels. Then I realized I have rocked heels in the past at the exact same weight when I wasn’t too lazy to bother.
I have definitely always thought I am too fat to go surfing, must test that theory and hopefully debunk it this summer.
This isn’t news to you. You know the limitations are self imposed. Your body is capable of a lot more than you think. Your mind is capable of even more if you let it wander and follow along. So how do I make myself ignore that voice that tells me I am too fat to do something?
I give myself the goal to try atleast one new thing every year. It could be a physical activity like pole dancing, or a skill like sewing. Some things stick over the years(like running) and some don’t (yup, sewing is wonderful and hell yeah, I can sew now; but I am over it). Even if something was a total fail (surfing, I am looking at you), there is satisfaction is knowing you tried.
So set that intention, find that one thing you have always wanted to do but never done because you thought you were too fat for it. Go do that thing, then pick the next one. Good luck, and keep on keeping on.
This would have been my first pole video post. I would have transferred the video from my camera to Youtube, made sure the privacy settings were ‘unlisted’, and posted it on this blog. Then I’d have crossed my fingers that no one would watch it. And I would have hoped and wished that someone would watch it and give me some tips and maybe a ‘keep going, good job’. That would have encouraged me. Even if that didn’t happen, posting the first video would have given me courage to post many more. Then sometime in the future I would have gone back to that video and marveled at how much I have improved.
Would have. All because I deleted the video. I deleted all 4 of them. 4 videos that could’ve been my ‘first.’
I was feeling good when I was dancing. There were goofy times but in my head I looked good. Not so when I watched the videos. I looked awkward, and like I was running out of things to do, and I definitely didn’t look as sexy as I felt.
Anyone else feel the same or felt the same in the past? How do I get over it? Do I just suck it up and pull the trigger? How do you gain enough confidence to not only share something with the world, but also have the balls to watch it again without cringing? I am not there yet, but someday.